Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Landing on my feet

Let your natural smarts and intuition be your guide today, especially when dealing with relationships. For the next few days, you can see more deeply beneath the surface to what's happening on another level, which gives you a kind of sixth sense when observing personal interactions. With this kind of thinking, you can open your mind and strengthen your bonds. It's a great opportunity, so seize it! -- today's horoscope

Even in the strangest of circumstances, I have always had the ability to turn things around and ultimately land on my feet. However, right now I'm dealing with my world turning upside-down and I really hope those feline instincts kick in.

On my 37th birthday, just 3 months ago, I put my house in New Jersey on the market to move to North Carolina. I was going to live with my boyfriend, an amazing man who I met a month and a half earlier on vacation and who I thought would be 'the one'.

Last week I was asked to move out. According to him, his ex-wife was threatening to sue for custody of the kids because living in sin was not a good environment. In three days, I had found an apartment, signed a lease, and moved in. I had thought that this was a good thing. I truly believed that going from long-distance relationship to living together was just too much of a strain and that by me having my own place, we could go back to dating and being normal.

It's never good when you get a text saying 'we have to talk'.

I went to his house and knocked on the door. I still had a key, but I thought that would be rude to let myself in. When he didn't answer right away, I cleared out the remaining things I had in the garage. When he did finally answer the door, I got the last of my things from the hall closet. When I had it all gathered, I turned to him.

"What? What do you have to tell me?"

"I think its pretty obvious. We haven't been getting along to well these last few days."

Um, you think it could be because you made me leave??

There was so much I wanted to yell and scream. But really, what's the point. If he didn't want to be with me, then I wasn't going to beg.

"So who really kicked me out? You or [her]?"

"Both."

Ouch.

So I learned what a coward he really is.

And I can pick myself up, turn this around, and continue on with my adventure. Because that's what life is really about, right?

6 comments:

  1. Anonymous12:13 AM

    I'm so sorry Clau!!

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  2. Anonymous10:14 AM

    You have always been a strong women.I'am sorry for you. But as past proves, you will get through this. I wish you nothing but the best,

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  3. an old friend10:16 AM

    hmm... starting to understand why Barry bit him. Always trust a dog's instinct!!

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  4. Anonymous5:58 PM

    Did you ask him why he didn't show you his va_j_j sooner?

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  5. Claudine... this sucks! I am so sorry you are going through this.

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  6. Argh.

    But you know, this sorta sounds like the start of a romantic comedy. The kind where the initial path to 'the one' is only a stepping stone. Right?!?!?!

    Now get your dog back and try your darnedest to keep moving forward.

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