I think I may be on to something.
It's ok to allow someone to do something for you, even when you're fully capable of doing it yourself.
My car needs to be inspected before I renew the registration. I've never done it before in North Carolina, so I wasn't sure if I could just take it anywhere, or if I had to bring it into a DMV location like I have to in NJ. So I asked Charles about it.
He offered to take my car in to get inspected while I was away this weekend. (He's also taking me to and from the airport.).
I had intended to bring my car in to get inspected during lunch today. I could take it to pretty much any Jiffy Lube or mom-and-pop auto store. But when he offered I saw something more than a kindly offer. I saw him saying "I want to take care of you."
If I had said , "no worries. I can do it" it would have been seen as more than don't go through the trouble. I would have rejected his offer of taking care of me.
But by agreeing, and recognizing how nice it is of him to do that, its the same as me saying, "I want us to be partners again."
Small steps, I know. But I'm noticing the small things that I would have otherwise overlooked.