tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3456182.post7509924347969695048..comments2023-05-15T06:09:57.440-04:00Comments on as seen through the lens: The Sixth SenseAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02674153833571650706noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3456182.post-90473825463822332542011-02-20T20:50:51.131-05:002011-02-20T20:50:51.131-05:00dang, steve@enginpost - great comment - articulate...dang, steve@enginpost - great comment - articulate, supportive and loving. i think i'm going to start writing you for personal advice now.<br /><br />clau, what he said.supergoodnumberonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3456182.post-90900437198245449942011-02-20T15:16:48.797-05:002011-02-20T15:16:48.797-05:00This is a brave posting, for a couple reasons:
1....This is a brave posting, for a couple reasons:<br /><br />1. Because you are willing to own up to any part you may (or may not) have played in an effort to reconcile. That is by any measure brave.<br /><br />2. Because you are being incredibly transparent. By that I mean transparent to him in a fairly confident and trusting manner, and maybe too transparent to all of us. We love you Claudine, but you don't owe us the intimate details of a story in the middle of being written. It isn't that we don't want to know. It is only that maybe it isn't only your story to tell. My hope is that he won't feel too exposed by the telling.<br /><br />3. I think you are writing stuff down in a way that makes it easy to remember. Just know that even in this email you are jumping to a number of conclusions. Let me show you:<br /><br />a. He says he didn't want to break up, but clearly (from what you have told me) he didn't want it to go where ever it was headed in that moment. That isn't to say that you may have simply been on a side road in the middle of a much more significant adventure, but maybe there was (still may be) something of that side road to resolve. Here is me hoping you resolve the side road before hopping back in the car (don't get me wrong! You deserve to be "in the car" but this might not be the car for you and you deserve to know that too.)<br /><br />b. He mentions, in a number of situations a few incompatibilities with his faith, your faith, your collective decisions which may or may not be influenced by his/your faith (ie. the sex stuff, the prayer thing, living together, etc.). Some of this may well be the side road, if you agree that a resolution keeps you in the car and down the road for continued adventures. <br /><br />So, you are brave. And while at the moment I am holding my breath like a voyeur shocked by the observation, I want to say that I am cheering for you. I so want you to be happy.<br /><br />So when you say you want to be friends and you care, then hopefully you continue to care enough to go slowly and resolve some of the questions and statements you documented in your writing on this topic. You two might really see the value in each other and care for each other, but if you don't share some core stuff, then you will just find the true version of each other having become invested again and disappointed at the investment.<br /><br />I believe in you Claud! Brave soul!steve@enginposthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10039393908809770143noreply@blogger.com